An Ode to a Life That Was

Ada stood in front of the house she had called home for over a decade. It was a place that had shaped her childhood in ways she couldn’t put into words—the good, the bad, and everything in between. Today, though, it looked different, almost unrecognizable. The green building she remembered was now painted a modern shade of white, and the street that once felt so alive was… quiet. No kids playing. No familiar faces. No vendors shouting. Just silence.

As she stood there, nostalgia washed over her. She could see her younger self, always running down the stairs—for errands, for play, for reasons she couldn’t even remember now. She’d dash to the Mallam’s shop just outside the building to grab things for her parents or to her Aunt Ngozi’s salon just a stone’s throw from the house. The supermarket nearby sold everything they ever needed, and if it wasn’t there, someone in the neighborhood surely had it.

The street was alive back then. Morning assemblies from nearby schools filled the air, and at closing time, students loitered on the street, buying snacks from Iya Seun or catching up with friends. The bakery down the road, famous for its sweet, hot bread, sent out an aroma that drew everyone in.

Weekends were especially lively: boys and men playing football on the street, the smell of neighbors’ cooking filling the air, the hum of generators blending with the sound of TVs tuned to familiar TV shows. She could almost hear the collective cheer when NEPA (now PHCN) restored power or the Super Eagles scored a goal during a live match. It wasn’t just a street; it was a community where doors were always open, and neighbors felt like family.

But now? Everything had changed.

The bustling, vibrant street she once knew was gone. The familiar faces were no longer there, and the sense of community she’d experienced growing up seemed non existent.

Ada was different too.

She wasn’t the carefree girl who had once lived at Number 8, Bakare Street. She was a mum of three, living thousands of miles away in a foreign land where neighbors barely acknowledged each other. Life abroad was quieter and more structured, but also lonelier. The communal warmth she’d taken for granted now felt like a treasure she couldn’t reclaim.

She had always imagined she’d grow up and move on, but she hadn’t anticipated how much she’d miss the life she once had. The simplicity, the connection, the sense of belonging.

A few weeks back, she and her family had tried baking bread at home. As they worked, memories of the bakery down the street flooded her mind. The aroma of their freshly baked bread had brought back a piece of her childhood, even if only for a moment. It wasn’t the same, but it was enough to make her smile.

As she climbed back into her car, Ada took one last look at the house and the street that had given her so much. Life had moved on, as it always does, but the lessons and love she found there stayed with her.

Her childhood had been a gift, filled with memories and experiences that shaped her into the woman she was today. And though life looked different now, she knew those moments would always be a part of her, a reminder of where she’d come from and how far she’d grown.

Driving away, she whispered a silent thank you to Number 8, Bakare Street. It had been more than just a street and a house; it had been a haven, her home. And though her life now looked nothing like it did back then, she carried those memories as a reminder of who she was and how far she’d come.

11 responses to “An Ode to a Life That Was”

  1. FATIMAH BIADE ABDULKAREEM Avatar
    FATIMAH BIADE ABDULKAREEM

    This sounds really familiar, growing up then in the village. The communal life, the fresh air, fresh food, freedom of children especially without fear of kidnap or any harm. Children were free to play and eat in any of their friend’s house, boys would have played and become so dirty and unrecognized but always exercised caution because every adult in the neighborhood was watching over and would not hesitate to correct any ill-manner or misdemeanor of any child. Every child belonged to everybody. Now it’s different.

    1. MARYAM ABDULKAREEM Avatar

      Exactly! It’s amazing how many of us share similar memories from these simpler times!

      It’s so different now, and I often wonder how we can bring back even a little of that communal love.

      Thank you for reading 🙂

  2.  Avatar
    Anonymous

    The reality of our existence is that – time changes and times change. Just as Ada, we must accept our growth and the change that comes with it with grace and gratitude

    1. MARYAM ABDULKAREEM Avatar

      You couldn’t have said it any better! Time does changes everything and while it’s not always easy, embracing grace and gratitude just like Ada makes it easier!

      Thank you for reading 🙂

  3. Al-ameen Abdulkareem Avatar
    Al-ameen Abdulkareem

    The smell of that bakery down the road was truly divine. This took me back.

    1. MARYAM ABDULKAREEM Avatar

      You know this! That smell was exactly what inspired this post! Such Good times!

      Thanks for reading 🙂

  4. Ibrahim Abdulkareem Avatar
    Ibrahim Abdulkareem

    This sounds so familiar. Nostalgic feelings as I read through. Oladeinde Coker 😄. Waking up to the call to prayer from mosques around and church services on Sundays. Men playing football on the street especially environmental saturdays 😄. The cheap things we could get at the mallam stalls hanging around the streets after billing “sure uncles and aunts” that came around. The smell of the bakery , Yummy Fresh hot bread ! The sound of the local grinding machine( Akara and ogi saturdays).Sneaking out to watch football with the men on champions league nights. The love from neighbors and friends made over the years.Definitely miss all of the calmness, joy and peace of mind.
    Grateful for all of it. We have to move on and grow with time, enjoy every bit of where we are right now and ensure we try to inculcate that communal love and spirit however little in our current life and society home and abroad.

    1. MARYAM ABDULKAREEM Avatar

      Omg! Yes! You just painted the perfect picture! How could I have forgotten the local grinding machine and the morning call to prayer from mosques? And the church services too! So nostalgic!

      You couldn’t have said it any better. Though it’s difficult, we truly have to grow with time and adapt to our new reality.

      Thank you for reading! 🙂

  5. Murewa Avatar
    Murewa

    Hmmmm……this piece reminds me of my last visit to my family house where I grew up, change is indeed inevitable, the old ones were dead and others have moved to either cities or abroad, even the ones in town are not living together like before so the joy of living with uncles, aunties, cousins, nieces and nephews have vanished likewise the old times moonlight play, visiting relatives that used to some aroma to eid celebration is also fading away, life has really changed with time and surely this will continue since the only constant thing is CHANGE.

    1. MARYAM ABDULKAREEM Avatar

      You couldn’t have said it any better! It’s truly bittersweet how time changes everything, but like you said, change is inevitable.

      Thank you so much for reading and sharing your thoughts! 🙂

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